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 Posted: Mon Jun 21, 2010 10:17 am
I'm about to head off to college, but I have to live in the on-campus dorms. The main problem with that is the college has it to where while it's a co-ed dorm, roommates have to be all "female" or all "male". Meaning I'm going to have to live with 3 girls I don't know.
I'd really like to start my transition, but I don't know how to go about it while in college. I have a friend who is MtF, but she's not living on campus, she got an apartment near campus.
How should I tell them?
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Posted: Mon Jun 21, 2010 4:32 pm
I think the best thing to do would be to contact the residency department as soon as possible. Explain your situation and your plan to transition while attending school and living in the dorms. Then they can work with you to figure out accommodations that can best suit you and your roommates.
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Posted: Sun Jul 25, 2010 7:50 pm
To be entirely honest, this is one of the main reasons I've avoided living on my college campus. Gender specific room assignment. Which, when I bothered to speak to my college, they just brushed it off. Told me that they couldn't help someone with my kind of 'situation'.
So I just got an apartment. I take classes part time, and work full time. It's not ideal, not at all for a student/young man trying to make it but I wasn't willing to argue and make a big deal out of it.
Especially in a hick-town kind of area. -.-; I've walked out of classes where they won't call me by my chosen name.
My advice? Stand your ground. Don't let them push you around. A couple of other trans that I know won't go to the college that I go to because of their attitude. If they won't work with you? Find another school. It's sucky otherwise :/
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Posted: Sun Jul 25, 2010 8:47 pm
Ditto on the two posts above mine. Be professional proactive and stand your ground and don't settle if accommodations can't be made. Because you can always make your own such as living off campus.
If a school does not allow you to live off campus and they will not give you the living assistance you need as a "minority needing special accommodations" then I personally would make it very clear to them that they are going to end being charged for discrimination.
Even though you may not be disabled, equal opportunity housing by law mandates that you get fair treatment within reasonable standard.
Because your housing situation will greatly affect your learning environment and your educational experiences. Now you can be affected in a good way with minimizing causes of stress and anxiety, or it can lead you deep into depression, anxieties, insecurities and disorders until your inevitable failure.
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