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 Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 2:09 am
Soooo....
I'm a lonely boy.
And I don't have ID because I won't get ID with F on it.
So bars aren't really an option....
I'm trying to think of where I could find a guy... Especially one not just interested in sex.
And even after that, what do I tell them? When do I tell them?
Trans dating seems... crazy.
I live 100% as a guy, but no surgeries, just T.
Any advice?
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Posted: Sun Oct 17, 2010 7:31 pm
What about work, school, or social or volunteer groups? And you should get an ID anyway since it's kinda something required by law if you're over 15 and a good thing to have in case you get hassled by cops or someone throws a fit about using a check or credit card.
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Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 3:05 am
I don't work or go to school.. not really in any social or volunteer groups....
Also... I didn't know it was required by law.. is it in canada? Never heard of that....
Also I don't have any checks or credit cards
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Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 3:12 pm
OH.
Also.
I signed up for a site called plentyoffish.com which is a dating site.
And.
Now My account is missing.
I think it's because I'm trans.
I sent them a message. I'll tell you guys what they said.
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Posted: Fri Nov 05, 2010 2:57 pm
As far as dating goes, I feel that I've been more fortunate than most transguys. I've never been at a loss for suitors, nor have I ever had any negative dating experiences. I always attribute this success to one simple fact- I'm never looking for a relationship! If you stress out about finding a relationship, you will only find the wrong types of people or make yourself more desperate and liable to settle. My advice would be to do what you normally do, and you will eventually find someone. And when you do finally find them, they will share your interests, because you found them in a class you were both taking, while looking through books at the library, while browsing a forum online, etc. If you don't go to school or do volunteer groups, then start! One one hand, it will make you more attractive to potential partners, and on the other it will widen your dating pool immensely, and give you more places to meet people. Just don't stress out too much, and the person you want will come to you.
On the issue of telling the person, I normally do not get into a relationship without letting the other person know up front. I feel that the potential partner doesn't deserve to be with me- even on one or two dates- if they're not comfortable with my identity or trans people in general. If you're not comfortable with this, however, I feel that telling the person on the second or third date- after you've assessed if they would react negatively/dangerously but presumably before you've had any sexual contact- would be a good bet.
Good luck!
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Posted: Fri Mar 25, 2011 5:54 pm
It's not in your face...
What area do you live in? In the U.S, there are some states that have recently changed their F/M ID policy.
Ohio, I know, just came out with a transgender form to switch 'F's and 'M's in 2009. The only outside verification it requires is a signature from your therapist. (In my state, you can change the gender on your ID this way, but not on your birth cert.)
...It's in my hand.
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